OLSON MFT CLINIC BLOG
November's Feature: Jason Fiala, MA, tLMFT
Jason K. Fiala, MA, tLMFT, graduated from Mount Mercy University in 2023 with his Master of Arts in Marriage and Family Therapy. He is currently attending MMU in their Ph.D program where he researches the Neuroscience of Systemic human Connection.
Jason is currently practicing at Peaceful Mindset Counseling in Hiawatha. His clinical interests include Mens Mental health, existential meaning making, and couple’s connection. Jason practices from an attachment based experiential lens. He employs therapeutic approaches and techniques from Symbolic Experiential Family therapy, Emotionally Focused therapy, Systemic Sex therapy, and Person-Centered Exploration and Play therapy. He works with all psychological and relationship obstacles as he fully believes that every person is deserving and worthy of love, belonging, and being seen.
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https://www.peacefulmindsetcounseling.com/our-team/jason-fiala/
Resiliency; the power from within.
By: Jason K. Fiala
Resiliency, we hear this word, this term, this concept and hold it with apprehension. The ability to withstand, recover, and to be flexible to the adversity we find ourselves is one that often gets confused with acceptance of pain or despair, commitment to stress, and an implied numbing for the world around us. I often find myself facing challenges in my life, whether they be with my work, school, or family. I find that resiliency goes beyond our ability to withstand negative experiences and includes our ability to solve problems and overcome them, to adapt to change, and to transform negative experiences.
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This, I feel, is a power that comes from within. Not merely accepting that we can experience bad things, but that we hold the ability to learn, grow, and even transform ourselves because of the adversity instead of despite it. Yes, you are going to face challenges that will seem too heavy of a weight to bear, you will live in the ambiguity of unknowing, and you will experience a light at the end of the tunnel. The good news is that you, yes you, can develop this ability to solve problems and overcome move past them, to identify and adapt to change, and to transform negative experiences.
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With each new obstacle comes a unique opportunity to transform how you perceive the situation and find chances to take a step into understanding from a different perspective. Every time this is practiced this will become easier. Find the one thing that may make a difference for you and do it. Resiliency isn’t about standing in the rain and accepting you will be wet, it's about your ability to find and use an umbrella or put your hood up. More than being able to adapt to internal and external demands mentally, emotionally, or behaviorally it means being able to face the uncomfortability of healing. With time, with practice, and even with help you can discover your power within.